重建北美華人教會
Chinese Churches
are bogged down
by Intercultural Challenges
In every church, there are intergenerational challenges between parents and children, but in the Chinese Church in North America, these challenges are exacerbated and made complex by the difference between traditional Chinese culture (by the immigrant parents) and the Westernized culture (of their children). These differences often lead to challenges where the Chinese Ministry (CM)’s heart to protect their children from worldliness is interpreted by the English Ministry (EM) as control and inconsideration, or even as domination and manipulation, as seen in conflicts over new forms of ministry, hiring or continuance of an EM pastor, resource allocation, and opinions over life-style choices. The CM and EM in Chinese churches need to learn to bridge this gap or risk facing church splits and endless silent exoduses which weaken the church.
mutual understanding
Even in mono-cultural churches, there needs to be mutual understanding (and even mutual respect), how much more is this necessary between the Chinese (CM) and English Ministry (EM) of a Chinese church.
CM members need to learn to respect the growing EM young people and not continue to treat them as children even after they have become full-fledge working professionals and/or started their own families (practical steps include intentionally including qualified EM members on the board and respecting EM opinions on resource allocation, ministry approaches and hiring decisions for an EM pastor). This approach will not only diminish the cognitive dissonance (since the respect they normally receive in society as a professional and as a parent are echoed within the church), but it is a recipe towards empowering the EM to take on the leadership baton as the CM ages.
EM members also need to respect the CM by recognizing the positives in Chinese culture and Chinese Church culture (e.g. a good work ethic, commitment to church ministries, high consideration of the group) and by gleaning wisdom from the life and ministry experience of older CM believers. EM members and leaders should strive to understand the perspective of the CM without assuming the worse of intentions, and be patient when change is slow. Individual EM Christians can prayerfully and intentionally connect with older, respectable CM Christians to be inspired by their testimonies, learn from their life experience and gain insight into effective church ministry since they will be the future leaders of the Chinese church as the CM ages and retires.
back to the basics
with cultural contextualization
In many ways, the conflicts in the Chinese church simply requires going back to the basics. It requires humility from all members and leaders to go back to God’s Word rather than using church tradition or emotional appeal as authority (家長式領導方法). Instead, we need to go back to what the Bible specifically says and emphasize biblical principles while allowing for flexible application of Scripture (CM generally struggle with flexibility and EM may be tempted to be too flexible; the key is interactive discussion and prayer to discern the will of God). It also requires humility, patience, forgiveness and love translating to proactive action so that inter-personal conflicts may lead to reconciliation, and ministry philosophy differences can lead to collaboration and finding a third way forward rather than sweeping past conflicts under the rug which often lead to continual resentment and distrust. At the end of the day, church conflicts reveal that the real need is basic Christian character and a devotion to prayer rather than stubbornly fighting for one’s way, holding bitterness, attempting to control/manipulate, or just leaving in anger and resentment. We need to exercise grace-driven effort as we are led by the Holy Spirit.
But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another… But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh… But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. - Galatians 5:15, 16, 22-23
Many of the following concrete areas needing correction will be directed at the Chinese Ministry mostly because in many Chinese churches, Chinese congregational members are mainly the ones in power (Chinese Senior Pastor, Chinese Moderator, and perhaps little or no EM representatives on the church board). However, even in the areas below that are leader-dependent, both the Chinese Ministry (CM) and English Ministry (EM) need to prayerfully work together to build a spiritually healthy church. These areas include:
Release Control and Empower the English Ministry - CM leaders need to trust and entrust leadership to EM leaders who are growing spiritually and have demonstrated maturity. This means that CM leaders need to trust EM leaders to handle individual life-style choices within EM, freely start or end ministries according to the needs of EM members, exercise leadership freedom within the church (give freedom to the EM pastor and EM leaders), and even include them on the church board (having a CM person transfer over to the EM service, and then consider that uncle/auntie as an EM representative does not count!). If a church begins to practice these things, perhaps they would soon be ready to even consider a mature EM person to be considered as the board’s moderator or even consider having the EM pastor who understands both cultures to be the senior pastor.
Humility - It is true that EM should exercise humility towards CM and CM leaders. They ought not to be selfish but to consider resource needs of the CM and the needs arise from CM elderly members so that the whole church makes decisions for all its members out of love. EM should also not quickly get angry, bitter and upset due to difference in ministry philosophy but strive to communicate concerns in respectful ways. However, as mentioned above, because in most Chinese churches, power resides in CM leaders, the reminder for humility is more commonly absent in CM leaders. In a healthy family, children who are adults eventually take huge responsibility not only for their children but also for their aged parents; it would not be healthy for parents to continue to baby them (家長式對待) when they are in their 30s and 40s. In the same way, such a shift in mindset needs to occur in the Chinese Church.
Give Freedom in Life-style Choices - Towards life-style choices such as what to dress, entertainment choices, and even participation of annual events (e.g. Halloween), CM leaders need to exercise biblical discernment and flexibility. If other Bible-believing Western churches whom your church already accepts have these above practices, but you are judging, censoring and/or restricting your EM members, then those decisions probably need to be re-assessed. The recommendation is to lean on mature EM leaders for their perspective and decision making.
Reasonable Salaries (which match the cost-of-living) - The modern Chinese church, especially those in metropolitan cities, while needing to honor the culture of the past inherited by Western missionaries or early church leaders of simple material living, need to acknowledge the higher cost of living in life today especially in large cities. As a result, it is necessary to give reasonable wages to pastors and administrative staff with salaries matching similar jobs and educational levels in society so as to not unnecessarily burden them which will hinder their ministry effectiveness. The secondary benefit of this change is that the church would attract “higher quality” staff members rather than those who are available but may have character or competent issues due to a lack of candidates for a particular staffing position. For pastoral salary, it is appropriate to recognize the principle that “the elders who rule well (should) be considered worthy of double honor” (1 Tim 5:17).
- “善於督導教會的長老,尤其是勤勞講道教導人的,應該得到加倍的敬奉。”- 提前 5:17Intergenerational Engagement - Because healthy transition in leadership can only happen through modelling and interpersonal relationships (and even mentorship), a healthy Chinese church should facilitate formal and informal points of connection between respectable CM members and EM members. Practically, the CM members and leaders who catch the vision can intentionally participate in EM worship, fellowship, events, ministries, outreach and mission trips in order to develop trusting relationship with EM members and leaders. When these steps are being taken, EM members should welcome them rather than to discourage uncles and aunties in their attempt to bridge the gap and make relational connections.
If Chinese churches choose not to change in the above areas, they will continue to experience the occasional church split and the silent exodus (EM people gradually leaving especially as they enter into adulthood and certainly when they have children), and the Chinese church, if there is a significant season of low Chinese immigration, will slowly age out (and for smaller churches, perhaps die as a result). Without the reasonable salary increase, Chinese churches will continue to or even increasingly experience an inability to hire EM pastors and EM support staff. Finally, even if a Chinese church can overcome much of the negatives, without positively mentoring the next generation, future issues of spiritual immaturity, biblical illiteracy and foolish leadership will likely occur.
If Chinese churches do reform in these areas, I believe the Lord will bring much healing in interpersonal relationship and relit the spiritual passion in younger EM brothers and sisters for serving and gospel ministry; as a result, they will choose to raise their families in the Chinese church and take up the leadership baton for the whole church in the future so that gospel witness may continue for generation after generation.
correcting Chinese
church weaknesses
“In a culture that is patriarchal and therefore privileges the senior Chinese leadership, these older statesmen are firmly in control of the church and exert a tight grip on the ministry: 'Because they've always had control. Just like a Chinese parent who does tend to want control over their children.'”
Dr. Enoch Wong recommends:
“Rethinking and resetting leadership practices such that:
(a) power distance is narrowed;
(b) a structure and culture are espoused that is local-born friendly, with open communication, distributed decision-making responsibility, and trust;
(c) leadership apprenticeship is encouraged.”
— Listening to Their Voices: An Exploration of Faith Journeys of Canadian-Born Chinese Christians, Enoch Wong et al., pp. 103, 258.